Have you ever experienced conflict and then ask yourself, “What just happened?” Most people have this thought after an argument that escalated out of control. In the aftermath, feelings surface – hurt, fear, sadness, frightened, lost, and perhaps even hopeless. Arguments that escalate out of control can be contained. It’s not always easy however, with the right tools – you can deescalate an argument.
It is one thing to write about how to deescalate an argument and another to view an argument that escalates out of control. In this video, I break down what is happening as well as what this couple can do differently.
The interesting thing about this couple is that it is clear that resentment has grown overtime. It is inevitable that resentment will appear from time to time in your relationship. However, if left unaddressed – toxicity will grow in your relationship.
When relationship challenges grow because they have gone unaddressed and/or unresolved – it is a breeding ground for out-of-control arguments. Until you can address the underlying challenges that are causing resentment – it is necessary to learn how to contain an argument so you can minimize hurting each other even more.