Why are we not having sex?

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Sexless marriage is one of the top google searches when it comes to researching  marital challenges. Couples often feel shame when they are not having sex, so let’s make this a shame-free zone. Read this blog in an attempt to reach a better understanding. It’s important to apply anything you read to your own unique relationship. Pick out the bits and pieces from this blog and apply it to what might resonate with your relationship. Always remember that one size ...

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The Power of Accepting your Relationship

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It is often said that happiness comes from accepting our relationship. And most might agree that acceptance is necessary in relationships, BUT, the real question is: how do we get to that place of deepened acceptance in our relationship? This is a challenging topic. For some, acceptance may be a process over time while for others it may come a bit easier. Here are my thoughts on this challenging topic!

Start with you:

While it is understandable to immediately focus on the ...

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Is This the Secret to the Best Relationship?

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What is the secret to having the best relationships? This was the question asked of Betty White in an interview on the Today Show. They asked her this question mainly because of her age at that time, 93, seeking learned wisdom. Her response was “kindness, you don’t say the hurtful things even if you’re irritated or upset. Because that sticks, that sticks around or it just chips off the other person’s self-esteem”. Hmmmm, is kindness the secret? ...

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Subtle Fears and Your Relationship

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Different degrees of fear exist in all relationships. Just to preface, I am not referring to fear of abuse, intimidation, threats, and/or physical harm. I am referring to the fear that often goes unrecognized in relationships because when we think of “fear” we think of it on a larger scale. Fear of divorce or fear that your partner is cheating, for example. The fears that I am referring to can be subtle, beneath the surface. And I often find that ...

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Up close and personal: Learning about relationships on the road!!

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In my last blog, I wrote about my discovery of missing the small day-to-day encounters with my husband while he was away. Fast forward to writing this blog post and how I found myself being tested again! Funny how things work in a relationship, well at least my relationship – I don’t want to speak for everyone! Here’s our story, I know you will relate in some way or another!

My husband and I went to Vermont for ...

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Six Days Without My Husband – Lesson Learned!

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My husband and I have been married 26 years this August, and we’ve been together almost 30 years. As is true with most couples, we have had our good times, hard times, super challenging times, growing together times, and, well you know what I mean.

I recently learned a lesson that caught me a bit by surprise…….

But first let me say that during our 26 plus years together, I have experienced both being happy in my marriage and I have had ...

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What is going on in our relationship?

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There are many challenges in relationships but there is one that we rarely talk about. Before we take a deeper look into this challenge let’s look at a few of the concerns that people often express in their relationships:

~ My partner won’t talk about issues

~ I hate and avoid conflict

~ We don’t have sex or we don’t have enough sex

~ My partner doesn’t understand

~ I do not trust my partner

I have no doubt that you can add to this list. ...

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Two Sides of the Coin in Love

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Do you remember when you met your partner and fell in love? What did you love? Did you love his/her kindness? Or maybe their free spirit or humor? Maybe their work ethic? You name it! Have you ever heard the idea that portrays that the attributes of our partners that we fall in love with end up becoming the things that we don’t like about them? This is actually true. So let’s talk about why this happens and how we ...

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Are you Listening to me?

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There have been times in my marriage (I’m sure this will sound familiar to you) when I have been talking to my husband and I don’t feel like he is listening (in the way that I need – I’ll say more about that soon!). His face shows little emotion when I’m talking and he does not respond verbally. I then ask him, “Are you listening to me?” His response is “I can repeat every word you said”. I know that ...

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Are you Trying to Change me?

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The question of change in relationships is complex. In relationships I’ve often heard one half accuse the other, saying “Don’t try to change me!” The topic of change is a challenging one, mainly because we all want and deserve to be seen, loved, and accepted for who we are as a person. The real question to explore here is the following: is it change that we want or is it personal growth? So let’s explore the difference!

Wanting Change vs. Personal ...

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